Addressing your wedding invitations is kind of a big deal. And although there are about a million super fun ways to address your envelopes for your wedding invites and more fonts and envelope choices than I can count, there are some rules of etiquette that simply cannot be broken when it comes to HOW the titles are worded.Read More
Oftentimes I hear brides and grooms telling me all the reasons they can't afford a wedding planner and I just want to BEG them to reconsider that stance for sooooooo many reasons. You can't afford NOT to have a competent wedding planner on the ground handling all the details you've worked so long and so hard to put together. Here are just a few reasons why you should think twice before skipping a planner. I'm likely going to repeat myself a few times here, but trust me, I speak the truth!
I'm not going to touch on Destination Weddings in this post because we've got one specifically dedicated to that in the works so just stay tuned!
1. Peace of mind!
This is the biggest and the most important reason you should have a wedding planner that is both competent (and I stress that word) and professional (another word that deserves much emphasis) handling all the details of your big day. A real true event planner will have a whole team with her (or him!) so that no detail goes unnoticed.
Oh, what's that? Your auntie used to work at a flower shop in college back in '87 and she's going to do all the planning AND the flowers? Oh, your mom's cousin's best friend's step-brother's nephew's girlfriend does planning on the side? First of all, no. Second, do you really want your loved ones or some random person "working" your wedding instead of enjoying it? Don't you want to spend that wonderful day WITH your friends and family versus ordering everyone around and making sure people have done their "jobs" as well as making sure the vendors are on point? Wouldn't it be brilliant to have someone there to make sure all that happens while you get to be the Bride and not the Planner?
Furthermore, that person is more than likely not a professional wedding planner. Without the experience of a seasoned planning professional, when the average person gets hit with a high-stress, highly unpredictable day things can go very wrong. I'm not trying to scare you, but if things get hairy, can your mom/sister/cousin/aunt/friend handle the stress? And do you even want to expose her to that? Don't put the people you love to work at your wedding. The margin for error, stress and drama is exceptionally high when you do that!
Event & Wedding Planner jobs have landed on the top 5 lists of most stressful jobs for the last 5+ years. Simply put, we're used to this shit!
2. You will get access to our connections!
We've spent years carefully curating a list of vendors* we trust and highly recommend. We've built relationships with people and we know how they operate, we know that they are true professionals and we can attest to their abilities to deliver on their promises. We know exactly who to match you up with to fit your design and budget. We know who to guide you toward and who to steer you away from.
And even aside from discounts, we can open doors to vendors that may only work with clients that have wedding planners. That's right, there are many venues and vendors that will only work with people that have a planner. Without one of us, you'd likely never even know about them!
*PLEASE know that our Preferred Vendor list is not built on kickbacks, charging vendors commissions or referral fees. We find kickbacks to be not only dishonest, but wholly unethical and would never suggest a vendor based on them paying us to do so.
3. We can help you SAVE money!
Yes, you heard me right. We can save you money by helping you spend it smarter and negotiating better terms with your vendors. And sometimes our Preferred Vendors will offer discounted rates or throw in a little something extra for Scarlet brides. I'm not saying we will definitely be able to get you discounts and freebies with every single vendor, but sometimes it will happen. We work very closely with our preferred list for many reasons and occasionally they'll toss in a little lagniappe (a little something extra) for our clients. Let me reiterate that, we cannot guarantee discounts from everyone, but sometimes they will be offered. Do not go into a relationship with a planner simply because you think she's going to get you bajillions of discounts and get you a free wedding because you will be sorely disappointed, but certain vendors are able to extend discounts and upgrades for the clients of a planner they love.
We can also help you spend your money smarter by showing you where you can source things for less, talking you OUT of wasting $250 on a custom aisle runner you will probably trip on, and introducing you to the wonderful world of new talent! Love a high-end designer's flowers but can't afford it? We can introduce you to new talent that is very similar to their design aesthetic for a fraction of the cost. Bringing me right back to point #2 again, we know people!
Did you know it takes roughly 250-300 hours to plan a wedding for 125 people? Do you really have that much time on your hands? We do!
5. We can handle the drama!
If we know beforehand that Aunt Carol and Uncle Victor don't get along we can make sure they don't have any run-ins during the wedding. We can help you with the seating chart and make sure to seat them far, far away from each other at the reception (and we even keep an eye for trouble!) instead of them accidentally ending up at the same table and someone getting stabbed. This has legit happened. Buy me a margarita and I might just tell you that story!
6. We are your new, super organized, wedding loving best friends!
In addition to all the normal stuff like putting your timeline together and creating floorplans, we are one of the only people you know who will never get sick of your wedding! We spend hours gathering all your important personal belongings, helping you make your seating chart, putting together and delivering your Welcome Bags, helping keep you calm when your future sister-in-law gets a mad classy, monstrous new skull & crossbones tattoo right across her throat 2 days before your super traditional cathedral wedding (airbrushing isn't that expensive and works really well!), performing amateur relationship counseling when the groom insists on wearing his ratty old beat up Chucks with his custom Vera Wang tux (just let it slide!), coming with you to fittings, helping you pick out just the right shoes and earrings and then helping you again when you change your mind, keeping you hydrated & fed the day of the wedding, and answering every call and text you send our way. We keep track of payments for your vendors, help the best man and the MOH write their speeches if they need us, hand out all the tips, and we keep your event running seamlessly, handling whatever gets thrown our way.
And, honestly, the only thing we want at the end of the night is for you to hug us and tell us that you love us before you head off into Happily Ever After. That's the stuff we live for. Make your planner feel like she's loved and we will move mountains for you. Always.
7. We have brilliant ideas!
What? It's true Sure, you've seen all kinds of cool stuff on Pinterest but so have 100 million other Pinners. Most wedding planners & event designers strive to create unique events customized to the exact taste & budget of each client. And that means we get to know you as a couple and then come up with truly unique ideas for just y'all. We don't just copy our other weddings or another designer's work.
Or maybe you want to do something completely wild? We have crazy out of the box ideas (and the right connections!) to take your event to the next level! Want to hear more? Schedule your complimentary consultation with a Scarlet Wedding Planner today!
I know some of y'all are still worried that you cant afford a planner, but here's one last piece of advice, the ages old saying: "You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar" is one that will never go out of style. There is not one client that's been genuinely being kind and honest about their needs that has walked away without us finding a way to help them.
One of my absolute favorite past clients was on a tight budget and totally overwhelmed with planning, but she reminded me so much of my little sister, and on top of it she was absolutely delightful and gave me all the warm fuzzies when we talked for the first time that I knew I had to work with her and she's become one of my dearest friends (love you, Em!). So don't let your idea of what you can and can't afford stand in your way of at least talking to a wedding planner!
Happy planning, my loves!
enjoy a few photos of the SPD crew in action!
I have a feeling this blog is going to ruffle a few feathers but I'm ok with that. This has been on my mind for quite some time and I feel like I need to just go ahead and get it out in the open. I'll likely lose a few friends and a few likes on our Facebook page, but, again, I'm ok with that.
I've been working with this one wedding vendor for years and years and absolutely adored working with them. I recently inquired about a date for one of my couples and they were totally available...until they found out I had a same-sex couple. Then all of a sudden the convo got super awkward and they had to "check their schedule" and would have to get back to me. Ultimately they passed on the wedding without any real explanation.
Now, I'm not here to point any elbows or start any drama, but I do feel like I need to get something out there.
We don't do "gay" weddings. There, I said it. Now hold up a second, before you go and get all bajiggity about it, you should also know that we don't do "straight" weddings, "white" weddings, "black" weddings, "Chinese" weddings, "Jewish" weddings or any other wedding you're tempted to label.
You know what we do?
We do weddings. Period.
We do big weddings. We do small weddings. We do medium sized weddings. We do weddings with two grooms. We do weddings with a bride & a groom and weddings with two brides, too. We do pop up weddings and elopements. We do incredible, authentic, unique, breathtaking, heartfelt, swoon-worthy weddings. We do weddings so filled with love and heartfelt joy that our entire team straight up Ugly Cries as the couple exchanges their handwritten vows. We do super unique, weird, quirky weddings. We do weddings steeped in tradition. We do Muslim nikkahs. We do fusion weddings combining time honored traditions with new traditions that our couple has created. We do weddings where the clients want to hang cakes from the ceiling with circus performers swinging around it. We do weddings with food trucks and ultra luxe weddings with seven course meals presented by white gloved servers in tuxedos. We do weddings where instead of exchanging rings, they both get tattoos. We do weddings where the bride is escorted down the aisle by her children and they have a "family ceremony" where they all pledge to love one another and to go forth as more than just a husband and a wife, they go forth as a family. We do weddings where it's just the couple, their officiant, me and a killer photographer on a cliff overlooking the sea. We do weddings where the couple has their best friend in the entire world get ordained so he can legally marry them using a ceremony script the three of them wrote together. (That wedding hit us right in the feels.)
I guess my point is, yes, of course we do same-sex weddings (and straight ones and black ones and white ones and all the other ones too)! And for us it's really about everything but the orientation of our couples, cuz let's be honest, that's none of our damn business anyway. #amiright?!
We don't care how you love, the only thing we care about is that you love.
We love love! We love it in all its many forms. We love helping our couples celebrate their love for one another more than anything and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank the good Lord for allowing me to do what I love.
And speaking of Him, I believe with all my heart that the greatest commandment we were ever given was to love one another (Matthew 22:36-40) and that's exactly what I intend to do. I'm confident that when I'm called to account for my life in front of my Creator, all He's really going to care about is that I did my best to love folks without judgement and helped them celebrate their love for one another.
Now how about we all enjoy some photos of a few weddings that just make us happy, happy, happy?! You can't tell me that seeing people this happy makes you do anything but smile!
From now until The Scarlet Wedding Tour happens in January, we're going to be featuring a different SWT sponsor every Friday. We're calling it Friendor Fridays! (Friend + Vendor = Friendor for all of those who don't know wedding industry lingo)
This week we're featuring a vendor I absolutely adore and a whole fleet of incredible vintage vehicles that I would happily take off their hands if they ever needed a new home! I can't really get over the unique and amazing vehicles Lowcountry Valet has in their fleet! From vintage buses from the 50's to VW buses turned into gorgeous luxury vehicles to adorable tandem bicycles, these guys have it all! And it's not limited to just funky modes of transportation. They've got all the normal limos and party buses, but vintage cars? That's their thing and we're legit excited about it.
And guess what? Guests of the Scarlet Wedding Tour get to experience their vehicles firsthand on January 31, 2015! That's right, Lowcountry Valet is our transportation sponsor for the Tour and we can't wait for couples to check out their fleet in person!
Take a peek at just a few of their amazing vehicles below and see the rest of the collection here.
for more info on how you can become a sponsor contact Sara Skinner
With this amazing summer drawing to a close and dates still open on our calendar for Fall and Winter 2014, we're offering Takeover Coordination (similar to the Day Of Coordination packages most people are familiar with) for only $1400 for couples getting married in Charleston, SC and Atlanta, GA! What a deal, right?! Only one catch, you must book or inquire about our services by September 30th to secure your date at this rate.
Happy planning, my loves!
The only thing hotter than a well dressed man is two well dressed men! Here we've culled some of our favorite looks for tying the knot in style. Some of them are matching, some of them are complete opposites and some are just too dope (do the cool kids still say that?) not to include!
The one piece of advice I give all my couples is to be true to themselves and to make sure your attire is well tailored. If you're not comfortable wearing a tuxedo, then don't do it. However, if you're the sort of couple the adores being matchy-matchy then absolutely match one another for your wedding. This is your day and you should feel your absolute best while letting your personalities shine through!
Why not have one of you wear a bowtie and the other can wear a necktie in coordinating colors like the couple below? I honestly just can't handle how much I love the light gray suits sans jacket and just the vests!
Matching tuxes will never be wrong in my book either! Good gracious, men in well fitted tuxes just make your heart go pitter-patter...
And matching brown designer suits with matching socks? That's a done deal!
I just love these handsome fellas in blue and navy blue suits that really compliment each other perfectly. You really can't go wrong!
There is nothing I don't love about everything in the photo below! Super dark jeans with white tux jackets and the Happily Ever After jump? Adore!
Maegan & Phillip were some of my favorite clients right from the start. At my very first meeting with Maegan, her sweet mom, Missy, and sister, Paige, I instantly connected with their entire family and knew I wanted to be a part of their wedding!
Maegan & Phillip met while both working for Macy's and their quiet office romance turned into a beautiful love story. They got married at Peachtree Road United Methodist Church in Atlanta, the same church where her parents wed many years before, and had their reception at Piedmont Estate, the same place where her parents had their own wedding reception back when it was Anthony's. How sweet is that?!
Blush pink and gold were their colors with the girls in floor length blush gowns and the groom and groomsmen in dashing, classic black tuxedos and bowties. The bride wore a lovely lace confection from Joan Pillow Salon. Her veil was her "Something Borrowed" from her best friend, newlywed Kimmie.
Their wedding was absolutely brimming with touching personal details and they made me cry more than once. Missy gave Maegan her wedding veil and Maegan's bouquet was wrapped in it to carry down the aisle with her. Missy also kept a piece of the lace from the veil and had it embroidered with Maegan's initials and had the piece sewn inside the gown right above her heart. I almost lost it when I saw that in there! Especially since I was the one who suggested it. Maegan and her dad did a First Look, normally reserved for just the groom and the bride, but the first time a dad sees his little girl in her wedding gown the tears usually fall and this was no exception! Even their beloved dog, Molly, was present...in the form of a KILLER groom's cake, that is! I've never seen a more amazing (and tasty) groom's cake!
With 11 lovely bridesmaids and 6 handsome groomsmen, their wedding party was one of the largest I've had in awhile! They were so fun! Groom, Phillip, and his gents got ready at the Ritz Carlton Buckhead. The Ritz offers a super fun event called Bourbon and Bowties for gentlemen monthly and was good enough to host a private B&B event just for them! They were treated to samples of different bourbons and then given a lesson on how to tie their own bowties. How fun is that?!
Legendary Events knocked the ball out of the park at 3109 Piedmont Estate with killer food stations and bars, serving up a super fun menu in different parts of the house encouraging guests to mingle, enjoy the art and explore their surroundings. With a chef attended action stations and mixologists turning out the couple's signature cocktails, there was no shortage of tasty concoctions!
Mo Soul Band had the crowd absolutely rocking! I couldn't give them a higher recommendation. If you're on the hunt for a great band to keep your guests dancing until the very end, look no further than Mo Soul!
Enjoy the photos from Maegan & Phillip's incredible wedding!
planning- sara skinner, scarlet plan & design | photographer- VUE | videography- michael mann | reception venue- 3109 piedmont estate | ceremony location- peachtree road united methodist church | catering, floral design, wedding cake, linens- kate stone, legendary events | bridal attire- joan pilow salon | bride's shoes- badgley mischka | groom's attire- vera wang | transportation- atlantic limo | hair & makeup- the moore agency | getaway car- 1935 rolls royce phantom, special day limos | groom's cake- abby ryland
One of the best ways to set the stage for the mood and style of your event is through the escort cards. They are one of the first things your guests will see before entering the reception and it's a great chance to show off your personalities. Between unique cards and even more unique displays, the opportunities to do something completely out of the ordinary are endless! We hope the following images inspire and ignite your imaginations to let your personalities shine through at your wedding!
With watercolors making a huge impact on weddings right now it's safe to say we're utterly smitten with these amazing escort card displays found on Ruffled! How perfect would they be for a wedding in a museum or lovely garden fete?
And aren't we all a little obsessed with gold right now? I can't even contain my excitement over these gorgeous gilded farm animals!
What do you do when you've only got a small space to display your escort cards? Utilize the wall! Why not incorporate flowers from your bouquet and the tables into one of the most unique displays we've ever seen?
Even if you're not having a nautical wedding, using a boat to display your escort cards is super fun!
Who could resist the rustic charm of these?
I can honestly say with all certainty that if I found a portrait of my own face as my place card I'd be over the freaking moon!!
And all it takes for this little gem is matchbox cars and tiny Christmas trees! Stop. The. Madness. I'm utterly obsessed. If someone would like to make these for me I will love you forever! Please & Thank You!
photo credits: style me pretty, ruffled blog, craft gawker, the knot, southbound bride
When choosing your wedding decor, never think for a second that you're limited to only traditional options. If you're getting hitched outside a church, the only thing that you are limited by is your, or your planner's, imagination.
Backdrops can be used for a variety of reasons. Perhaps you'd like to add some extra color or a fun focal point for your guests. Or perhaps you'd like to show off your wedding vows on a massive handpainted canvas. No matter your reason, if you can dream it up, it can be done! So be brave and go for something that really speaks to you.
This gorgeous floral backdrop would look just as at home in a lovely garden wedding as it would in a barn. It would even look incredible in an art gallery!
If you're getting married in a garden and want something outside the traditional flower route but still want to add a bit of whimsy, check out these amazing hedges in the initials of the newlyweds!
Or this eco-friendly living backdrop!
Love books? We do!
These wooden doors are just amazing too!
I'm especially smitten with the idea of writing your wedding vows or a favorite passage on a giant backdrop!
Or upcycle an old wooden pallet with a lovely garland.
So go have some fun with your ceremony decor!
So we haven't gone completely mad when we say you should "lose" the wedding cake. We really mean that you shouldn't feel like you HAVE to go the traditional route when it comes to choosing your sweets for your guests. There are no rules when it comes to having (or not having) the big old wedding cake for 250 people. If you don't like cake, you don't have to serve cake. Or at least not an entire cake for everyone.
One of my favorite new trends I've been seeing pop up in several of my weddings is the smaller sized cake simply for cutting purposes and a huge dessert bar filled with all their favorite goodies. I mean, what do you do if neither of you really enjoy cake? I suggest tossing it out the window (not literally!) and serving your dearly beloved something you both actually enjoy.
What if your first date was at a fabulous little coffee shop and you shared an incredible little donut and would love to share that special moment with everyone? Get your "cake" made out of donuts!
And who says pie is just for picnics? We beg to differ! Go for something outside the box and serve up adorable little miniature pies. Or feel free to go even crazier with pies on a stick!
Or do what Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds did when they got hitched in Charleston at Boone Hall Plantation just last year, serve a little bit of everything! They had the cake flown in from Virginia and had tons of amazing local bakeries put an incredible dessert station together for them with everything from strawberry shortcakes to s'mores bars to tiny little tartlets.
The possibilities are really quite limitless when you realize that your wedding is all about you and your new spouse. There is nothing holding you back from serving what you want how you want it! So be brave and throw that wedding cake out the window!