We don't do "gay" weddings | Charleston, Atlanta & destination nontraditional wedding planner & designer | LGBT wedding planner

I have a feeling this blog is going to ruffle a few feathers but I'm ok with that. This has been on my mind for quite some time and I feel like I need to just go ahead and get it out in the open. I'll likely lose a few friends and a few likes on our Facebook page, but, again, I'm ok with that.  

I've been working with this one wedding vendor for years and years and absolutely adored working with them. I recently inquired about a date for one of my couples and they were totally available...until they found out I had a same-sex couple. Then all of a sudden the convo got super awkward and they had to "check their schedule" and would have to get back to me. Ultimately they passed on the wedding without any real explanation.

Now, I'm not here to point any elbows or start any drama, but I do feel like I need to get something out there.

We don't do "gay" weddings. There, I said it. Now hold up a second, before you go and get all bajiggity about it, you should also know that we don't do "straight" weddings, "white" weddings, "black" weddings, "Chinese" weddings, "Jewish" weddings or any other wedding you're tempted to label.

You know what we do?  

We do weddings.  Period.  

We do big weddings. We do small weddings. We do medium sized weddings. We do weddings with two grooms. We do weddings with a bride & a groom and weddings with two brides, too. We do pop up weddings and elopements. We do incredible, authentic, unique, breathtaking, heartfelt, swoon-worthy weddings. We do weddings so filled with love and heartfelt joy that our entire team straight up Ugly Cries as the couple exchanges their handwritten vows.  We do super unique, weird, quirky weddings.  We do weddings steeped in tradition.  We do Muslim nikkahs.  We do fusion weddings combining time honored traditions with new traditions that our couple has created.  We do weddings where the clients want to hang cakes from the ceiling with circus performers swinging around it.  We do weddings with food trucks and ultra luxe weddings with seven course meals presented by white gloved servers in tuxedos.  We do weddings where instead of exchanging rings, they both get tattoos.  We do weddings where the bride is escorted down the aisle by her children and they have a "family ceremony" where they all pledge to love one another and to go forth as more than just a husband and a wife, they go forth as a family.  We do weddings where it's just the couple, their officiant, me and a killer photographer on a cliff overlooking the sea.  We do weddings where the couple has their best friend in the entire world get ordained so he can legally marry them using a ceremony script the three of them wrote together.  (That wedding hit us right in the feels.)

I guess my point is, yes, of course we do same-sex weddings (and straight ones and black ones and white ones and all the other ones too)! And for us it's really about everything but the orientation of our couples, cuz let's be honest, that's none of our damn business anyway. #amiright?! 

We don't care how you love, the only thing we care about is that you love.

We love loveWe love it in all its many forms. We love helping our couples celebrate their love for one another more than anything and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank the good Lord for allowing me to do what I love.

And speaking of Him, I believe with all my heart that the greatest commandment we were ever given was to love one another (Matthew 22:36-40) and that's exactly what I intend to do.  I'm confident that when I'm called to account for my life in front of my Creator, all He's really going to care about is that I did my best to love folks without judgement and helped them celebrate their love for one another.

Now how about we all enjoy some photos of a few weddings that just make us happy, happy, happy?! You can't tell me that seeing people this happy makes you do anything but smile!

 mike allebach, the creative genius behind the lens for this photo, is available for travel to all 50 states and abroad

mike allebach, the creative genius behind the lens for this photo, is available for travel to all 50 states and abroad

 the couple's best friend, Alan, officiated the nuptials in this photo

the couple's best friend, Alan, officiated the nuptials in this photo

 mazel tov!

mazel tov!

 a ceremony filled with love and the promise to go forth as a family was just perfect for this couple

a ceremony filled with love and the promise to go forth as a family was just perfect for this couple

scarlet plan & design
 who says you can't wear a tuxedo with flip flops?

who says you can't wear a tuxedo with flip flops?

 a traditional church wedding with 11 bridesmaids and 9 groomsmen at peachtree road united methodist church in atlanta

a traditional church wedding with 11 bridesmaids and 9 groomsmen at peachtree road united methodist church in atlanta

 jumping for joy!

jumping for joy!

 matching boat shoes?  i looooove!!

matching boat shoes?  i looooove!!

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Scarlet Wedding Tour | Kate Spade Chic at Charleston Harbor Resort & Marina | Charleston Wedding Tours Bridal Show Alternative | Charleston, Atlanta, New York Nontraditional Wedding Planning & Design

Our first and last stop on the Scarlet Wedding Tour was the Charleston Harbor Resort & Marina, arguably one of my absolute favorite venues in all of Charleston.  With several impressive venues right on site for weddings and events, CHRM and their amazing event team are my first stop when venue hunting for clients or working on one of our many editorial shoots.  Shannon Hartman, the director of sales at CHRM, was one of the first people I spoke with when we first started planning the Tour and she went above and beyond for us in the months that followed.  

We used the Yacht Club above the Fish House for the afterparty.  With enormous windows and panoramic views of the Charleston Harbor, the Ravenel Bridge and most of downtown Charleston, the Yacht Club is absolutely breathtaking.  The last time we were at CHRM we put together an amazing nautical wedding inspired photo shoot (recently seen in Charleston Weddings Magazine) but wanted to stray from Nautical and show that although the space is perfect for that design theme, you're not limited to only that!  

Our design was inspired by Kate Spade, all things elegant, clean and fun.  We started with black, white and gold as our base colors and added an array of blush pink, peach, fuchsia, lilac, dusty rose, and lots of greens to round out our stunning and fresh color palette.  It was the perfect setting for the private after party!  We used elegant black sequined linens on the high top tables, black and white chevron sequined runners on our white farm table estate tables, paired with square plates, perfect gold flatware and used Riedel red wine glasses with delicate Kate Spade polka dotted white wine glasses to finish off our tablescape.

venue :: Charleston Harbor Resort & Marina | planning & design ::  Scarlet Plan & Design | photography :: The Click Chick Photography | rentals :: EventHaus | florals :: Tiger Lily Weddings | catering :: CHRM | cakes & cupcakes :: Sablee & Gardenia's Custom Cakes & Catering | table top rentals :: Polished | linens :: La Tavola & Ultrapom | paper suite :: By Brydon Fine Paper Design | mixology :: Firefly Vodka | music :: Ampd Entertainment

happy planning!

love, Sara

Gorgeous Gayla of Tiger Lily Weddings putting the finishing touches on their stunning floral design!

Try moving the table runners from the center of the table to either side tucked under your plates for a fun, fresh take on tradition!  Black and white keeps it elegant while the chevron and the pop of pink in the napkins keep it light and unexpected!  Gold flatware on square plates were the perfect finishing touches for this tablescape.

How perfect are these invitations?!  Brydon Holsey & I collaborated on the design and it came out incredible!  All I had to do was give Brydon my inspiration and color palette and she just absolutely nailed it!

This cake by Monica at Sablee might be my most favorite part of the entire design!  I mean, how can you go wrong with polka dots, stripes, gold confetti and our very own Scarlet ampersand?!

The cakes Monica makes are absolutely outstanding and we just love taking our clients to do tastings at her West Ashley bakery.

The catering provided by Charleston Harbor Resort & Marina was outstanding...as always!

Local favorite Firefly Vodka sponsored the tasty cocktails our guests enjoyed!

Ampd Entertainment played remixed tunes and kept the party bumping!  They're easily one of our favorite DJ's in the South and one of the first vendors we recommend to clients that want to get the party started and keep it going!

Gorgeous cakes and outstanding tastings by Gardenia's Custom Cakes and Catering.  Bit of trivia for ya, the owner of Gardenia's, Desmond Pringle, and I go waaaaay back to my pastry days in Atlanta when we were on the same pastry team.  Working with him was probably my favorite part of being a pastry chef!  Desmond even made my wedding cake when Tony & I got married back in 2011.  Love me some Desmond!

Wedding Backdrops | Having Fun With Your Ceremony Decor

When choosing your wedding decor, never think for a second that you're limited to only traditional options.  If you're getting hitched outside a church,  the only thing that you are limited by is your, or your planner's, imagination.  

Backdrops can be used for a variety of reasons.  Perhaps you'd like to add some extra color or a fun focal point for your guests.  Or perhaps you'd like to show off your wedding vows on a massive handpainted canvas.  No matter your reason, if you can dream it up, it can be done!  So be brave and go for something that really speaks to you.

This gorgeous floral backdrop would look just as at home in a lovely garden wedding as it would in a barn.  It would even look incredible in an art gallery!

If you're getting married in a garden and want something outside the traditional flower route but still want to add a bit of whimsy, check out these amazing hedges in the initials of the newlyweds!

Or this eco-friendly living backdrop!

Love books?  We do!

These wooden doors are just amazing too!

I'm especially smitten with the idea of writing your wedding vows or a favorite passage on a giant backdrop!

Or upcycle an old wooden pallet with a lovely garland.

So go have some fun with your ceremony decor!

xoxo,

sara

Losing the Wedding Cake | Non-traditional Wedding Sweets | Non-traditional Weddings

So we haven't gone completely mad when we say you should "lose" the wedding cake.  We really mean that you shouldn't feel like you HAVE to go the traditional route when it comes to choosing your sweets for your guests.  There are no rules when it comes to having (or not having) the big old wedding cake for 250 people.  If you don't like cake, you don't have to serve cake.  Or at least not an entire cake for everyone.

One of my favorite new trends I've been seeing pop up in several of my weddings is the smaller sized cake simply for cutting purposes and a huge dessert bar filled with all their favorite goodies.  I mean, what do you do if neither of you really enjoy cake?  I suggest tossing it out the window (not literally!) and serving your dearly beloved something you both actually enjoy.


What if your first date was at a fabulous little coffee shop and you shared an incredible little donut and would love to share that special moment with everyone?  Get your "cake" made out of donuts!

And who says pie is just for picnics?  We beg to differ!  Go for something outside the box and serve up adorable little miniature pies.  Or feel free to go even crazier with pies on a stick!

Or do what Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds did when they got hitched in Charleston at Boone Hall Plantation just last year, serve a little bit of everything!  They had the cake flown in from Virginia and had tons of amazing local bakeries put an incredible dessert station together for them with everything from strawberry shortcakes to s'mores bars to tiny little tartlets.

The possibilities are really quite limitless when you realize that your wedding is all about you and your new spouse.  There is nothing holding you back from serving what you want how you want it!  So be brave and throw that wedding cake out the window!