Which Vendors to Tip at Your Wedding | Ask a Wedding Planner | Charleston, Atlanta, Philly Nontraditional Wedding Planner

Which vendors should I tip at my wedding?

Today we're talking about the yucky stuff...money.  Usually our blogs are about the funsies and picking out the pretty stuff or yummy cakes, but today is all about the moolah. Most of our clients are usually pretty in the dark about who to tip at the wedding and thus end up asking us.  So we figured it was about time to get a blog up on that subject! Keep in mind tips are always optional but several vendors will expect them. Make sure you give the envelopes to the planner or the best man before the event to be given out at the end of the night and/or service performed.

Firstly let's talk about tipping your planner, and no, this is NOT a plug for us to get more money out of you! 

Sure, a tip is AMAZING and always very appreciated, but something a bit more personal for the gal (or gent) you've spent tons of time planning this special day with is probably in order. I'd suggest getting her a generous gift card for a restaurant you know she loves or a gift card for a pair of Tieks (anyone who spends hours on their feet should totally own a pair...or four!) or a gift basket filled with her favorite wines and cheeses would be divine!  Whatever you do get her, make sure it's personal and well thought out and you'll certainly make her feel loved! Side note, I would suggest tipping her staff individually. $50-100 per person is perfect.

Should I tip the wedding photographer?

Photographers don't expect to be tipped if they own the company, but if they only work for the company we suggest tipping them anywhere from $50-200 per person. Same rule applies to their second shooters, we suggest tipping them as well. As for a nice thank you for the photographer, try to send them something well thought out and personal. 

Should I tip the wedding hair and makeup artist?

Hair and makeup artists are definitely expecting to be tipped.  We usually suggest 15-25% of the total at the end of the appointment.

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Should I tip the officant?

Officiants usually expect to be tipped as well but it's a bit of a gray area as to how much.  Some people feel that if they're charging you to officiate then that's good enough, but we usually suggest tipping them 10-15% of the total, and if you're only asked to make a donation it should be at least $200.

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Which other vendors should we tip?

Ceremony musicians

If you've used a larger choir for the service and they haven't charged you a large fee, we'd recommend making a donation to their church for a small amount (around $100 is good) and giving them some cupcakes or cookies when the ceremony ends.

Definitely plan to tip anyone playing an instrument for the ceremony. Whether they're playing as a group or a soloist, we suggest between $50-100 per person.

Catering

Check directly with the caterer when it comes to tipping the catering staff. They typically have their gratuity and/or service fees built into the contract so ask them if that goes to the staff. If the gratuity isn't given right to the staff, we recommend tipping each of them. We suggest 2-5% of the total bill, and have your wedding planner give it to the banquet captain or catering manager at the end of the night.

Bartenders should be tipped if they didn't have a tip jar out for the guests to tip them. We suggest $150-200 each.

Transportation

Another person that will expect a tip is the transportation driver. We suggest 15-20% of the total.

Reception musicians and/or DJ

The band or DJ are technically optional tips, but usually recommended. If they've done an especially good job and really kept the party on its feet, we suggest $50-100 per musician and at least $200 for a great DJ.

Rental staff

We always suggest tipping the rental delivery/set up staff. Usually about $20-30+ per person is perfect for them. They don't expect it, but if they're delivering a ton of stuff, moving things multiple times or coming back for a super late pick-up it's a very nice touch.

Miscellaneous vendors

We suggest generously tipping anyone who falls into one of the more specialized categories below:

  • Cake or specialty dessert vendor
  • Photo booth operators
  • Live wedding painters
  • Henna artists
  • Performers

We hope this helped clear up the great tipping questions we're sure you all have!

7 things to do the morning of your wedding | wedding planning advice | charleston, atlanta, new york nontraditional wedding planner

OH MY GOODNESS!  Today is the Big Day!!!  What are you doing the morning of your wedding?  All too often when I ask this question my sweet brides start listing a million things they have to finish up and I just want to beg them to take it easy so I figured it was probably high time for a blog on this subject.  The only things you should be doing the morning of your wedding are relaxing with your nearest and dearest and being pampered by your makeup artist, but here are a few of our tried and true suggestions!

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1. Eat a big old breakfast!  Then eat a big old lunch!  You're probably not going to have another chance to eat for a very long time so eating now is essential.  And odds are, your bridesmaids have lots of champagne ready to be poured so avoid getting tipsy on an empty tummy and eat up!  Tip: make sure its high in protein and complex carbs to keep you going for hours.

2. Spend the morning with people you actually want to be around.  There's no law or rule saying you have to spend the whole morning with every single person in your immediate and extended family, bridal party and well meaning visitors, so if a big huge group is not really your scene, ditch the crowd and just kick it with your mom and bestie!  And guess what?  If you want to sneak out and have coffee with your soon-to-be hubby, that's just fine too!  The one and only person who was able to calm my nerves the morning of my wedding was Tony and thank god he stopped by the house to pick up his forgotten tie and check in on me.  One hug and a smooch from that handsome fella was all I needed to soothe my frazzled nerves and get my day started right!  So throw the rules away, smooch your sweetheart and dance on the bed with your bestie!

3. Stay hydrated!  For every glass of champagne (or coffee) you have follow it with a glass of water.  No, it will not make you look bloated but it will keep you from getting a headache or getting tipsy too early in the day.  Seriously, nobody wants to be that hammered bride at her own wedding...save that for your bridesmaids weddings!

4. Write a sweet card or letter to your love!  Have your wedding planner or a bridesmaid deliver it to him with your groom's gift.  Or better yet, exchange the letters with a door between you to keep from seeing each other and read them at the same time.  Bonus points if the photographer catches either of those things in motion!  #swoon

5. Steal one of your sweetie's favorite button down shirts to get ready in.  When getting your hair and makeup done the morning of your wedding the last thing you want to do is wear a tee shirt that you'd have to pull over your beautiful hair and makeup risking smudges and smears and ruining your lovely hair.  By snagging one of his beloved button downs your hair and makeup will be safe and your getting ready shots will be even more special.  Bonus points if its one of his college team shirts!

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6. Do a "First Look" with your parents or just your dad.  Everyone is always talking about the First Look with the groom, but the first time your mom and dad see you all made up and in your wedding gown, the tears are bound to flow and stunning heartfelt, tear-jerking photos are usually the result!

7. Take a few minutes alone to let it all sink in.  Pray, meditate, cuddle with your dog, do whatever brings you peace when everything around you is going at full speed.  You've spent months, maybe even a year or longer, planning a wedding and now that it's finally here, try to slow down for just a few minutes and find some quiet.  This day is going to fly by and if you don't stop to enjoy it, it'll pass you by in the blink of an eye.  Let the joy that this day is filled with come into your heart and just try to focus on the new life you and your beloved are forging from this day forward.  

Well, there you have it!  Those are our favorite tips and suggestions for the morning of your wedding!  What are some of yours?  

Happy planning, my loves!

Sara

The Scarlet Wedding Tour | Charleston Wedding Venue Tours | A Wedding Show Alternative | Charleston, Atlanta, New York Nontraditional Wedding Planning & Design

This past weekend was easily one of the hardest and most rewarding weekends of my career.  My team and I have spent just about the last full year talking about, planning, designing and pulling off essentially 4 events in one day.  We took engaged couples and their loved ones on tours of 4 of Charleston's most amazing wedding venues before ending with a super fun private after party.  Each venue featured a different design by a Scarlet planner complete with live models styled by a Scarlet stylist, full tablescapes, floral designs, tastings by award winning caterers, cocktails, epic wedding cakes (and even a cake made entirely out of cheese wheels!), and so much more!

More than anything I need to thank my incredible team and our amazing sponsors.  Without them this event never would've happened.  I love all of you!

My venue was Boone Hall Plantation.  Most people opt for the Cotton Dock, but that's not what we wanted.  We went for the Back Patio and it was perfect for my design!  It's funny how my design went from being super Tuscan inspired to ending up kind of a mash up of all things "Sara".  I basically created a wedding that was entirely 100% me without even realizing it!  We mixed some Italian/Tuscan pieces, a killer vintage airstream, farm tables topped with mismatched plates that could've been just as easily at home in my Nonna's cupboard as they were on our tables, fun travel themed pieces like vintage globes and suitcases (thanks, Whitney!), a little bit of my love for Wes Anderson flicks, and some very fun Boho touches to create this one of a kind theme!

Enjoy!

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Planning/Styling: Sara Skinner assisted by Regis Byrd & Jordan Zarwel; Styling by Alden deHart & Brittany Lapin, Scarlet Plan & Design  | Photography: Catherine Ann Photography | Venue: Boone Hall Plantation back patio | Videography: Before Your Eyes Cinematography  | Linens & Furniture Rentals: Event Haus  | Invitations: By Brydon | Gown: Maddion Row | Tuxedo: Charleston Tuxedo | Catering: Crave  | Mixology: Flute | Cheese “Cake”: Sablee/Charleston Artisan Cheese | Florist: Wildflowers Inc. | Music: Ear For Music  | Airstream: I Roll With It  | Favors: Holy Smoke Olive Oils  | Table Settings: Polished!  | Makeup/Hair: Charleston Lash & Beauty Bar  | Cigar Roller: Cigar Row | Vintage Car & Bus: Lowcountry Valet

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Sweet Taylor Girl one of our favorite bloggers (Holy City in Heels) acted as our lovely bride model paired with Max owner of Holy Smoke Smoked Olive Oil as our handsome groom.  We put Taylor in a stunning lace Sareh Nouri gown (arguably one of my favorite designers EVER) with an illusion neckline and back.  I mean, what's more Italian than lace?  Niente!  Max was decked out in a classic black tux from Charleston Tuxedo.

I'd say this "cake" is probably my favorite piece of this entire design.  I mean, seriously?  A cake made entirely out of cheese-wheels is legit the coolest thing I've ever seen and perfect for the couple that loves savory more than sweet!  And with a cake like this, there's no need to wait until late in the evening to slice that bad boy and mangia!

Vintage globes throughout the tablescapes kept the vibe fresh and unexpected.

Individual baguettes wrapped in kitchen paper with a spring of rosemary tucked in atop vintage china plates with gold flatware completed our "Family Style" feel on the guest table.  If you're in the market for gorgeous vintage plates, gold flatware or any other unique table toppers, look no further than our friends at Polished!

Sweet Brydon at By Brydon Fine Paper Designs absolutely knocked our paper suite out of the park with the colors she chose and the design we collaborated on!  And how about that canary yellow diamond on Taylor's ring?  Amazing!

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With the bride getting so much attention and say so when it comes to the wedding plans, we KNEW we had to do something pretty epic for the fellas!  A vintage airstream inspired by Teddy Roosevelt and all his manly machismo decked out as a quirky cigar lounge and bourbon bar was perfect!

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Friendor Friday | Flute Bar Service & Party Rentals | Scarlet Wedding Tour Sponsors | Charleston, Atlanta, New York Nontraditional Wedding Planners & Designers

Today I am so excited to talk about Petra Petrillo and Flute Bar Service & Party Rentals.  Petra was kind enough to host an Open House Holiday Party for all us event pros at LOKAL on Johns Island a few days ago and I am constantly blown away by her creativity and grace.  As always, the cocktails were incredible, the food was outstanding and the service was perfect.  Just a few of the many reasons that we are overjoyed to have Flute and her sister company Crave Catering on the Scarlet Wedding Tour.

  • how long have you been in the event business? and/or business for yourself?  Cooking and mixology were always in my life! My husband - Executive Chef Mike Petrillo and I opened our first restaurant in Pittsburgh, PA in 2002. We have started with catering as well as private parties back then. In 2007 we moved from Pennsylvania to Charleston and we launched Crave Charleston Catering. After 7 successful years in catering business I have started Flûte Charleston - bar service. I have many years of bartering experience and it just made sense to us to open a bartering service.
  • what inspires you?  Farmer’s markets and interesting grocery stores! I am exited about seasonal fruit for juices - I love mixing cocktails with fresh squeezed juice! Also, I have a passion for traveling and like to collect different ideas from various countries. 
  • what will guests of the scarlet wedding tour be seeing from you? Flûte will prepare 3 specialty cocktails created just for this event and will be serving them at Boone Hall Plantation.
  • what are some of your favorite venues to work at? My favorite definitely are plantations - they are just stunning! My favorites are: Boone Hall Plantation, The Island House on John’s Island and Brookland Pointe Plantation on Edisto Island.
  • what do you love most about this industry? I really like working with people and be part of their special day. I like to see how the events come together.
  • what do you hope guests of the Scarlet Wedding Tour will take away from this experience?  I hope they will be inspired to have a wedding of their dreams. With all the wonderful vendors participating in the Scarlet Wedding Tour there are going to see that the options and ideas have no limits!
  • name one thing/place someone coming to Charleston from out of town must see or do.  Carriage ride and a tour of one of the mansions in downtown is a must!
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Friendor Spotlight | Forage + Fleur by Rebekah Clark Moody | Scarlet Wedding Tour Sponsors | Charleston, Atlanta, New York Nontraditional Wedding Planners & Designers

I am starting to get incredibly excited about the Scarlet Wedding Tour, y'all!  We've got less than 2 months to go and so much in store for our guests!  

Today I'm delighted to introduce everyone to the super talented Rebekah Clark Moody of Forage + Fleur.  She's so much more than just a talented young woman, she's sweet and funny and kind and we just adore working with her and introducing her to our clients.  She's one of the floral designers guests will see on the tour and she's doing two of our fabulous venues!  Her designs will be at The Historic Rice Mill and Upstairs at Midtown.  

  • How long have you been in the event business?  and/or business for yourself? I have been in the event industry for almost three years (wow, time flies) and I launched my business in August 2014. 
  • What inspires you? Authentic moments. Whether it’s sitting down for an intimate dinner with family and friends or getting to know new people at creative gatherings, I love spending that time to create memories. Beautiful light. There’s just something amazing about working on a project when the lighting is just right. I recently worked on my first styled bridal shoot where we recreated the English countryside. Looking through the camera lens when the light highlighted the model and my floral bouquet, how could you not get inspired? And lastly an amazing meal. Sitting down with good friends and good food inspires me greatly. The structure and menu of a well planned meal has the ability to make me think creatively of how a well designed arrangement could compliment the moment and enhance the atmosphere.
  • What will guests of the Scarlet Wedding Tour be seeing from you? Soft, lush blooms with lots of greenery mixed in. The floral arrangements that I design are very natural and whimsical. I forage and work with flowers in their natural state. If my flowers or greens naturally fall to the right I put them on the right. When you see my designs I want them to look as if these flowers naturally grew together and I simply put them in a vase with unique variations and vibrant colors.
  • What are some of your favorite venues to work at? Some of my absolute favorite venues in Charleston are River Oaks Charleston, Boone Hall, and Runnymede Plantation.
  • What do you love most about this industry? I love the ever-changing nature of the event industry. Each and every event is unique, so it is fun to collaborate with other creative vendors to make each event remarkable. We as artists evolve and change over time. It’s inspiring for me to see our work evolve and change through our collaborative process.
  • What do you hope guests of the Scarlet Wedding Tour will take away from this experience? Inspiration and peace of mind. The wedding planning process can be quite challenging, so having good vendors that can help guide you along the way is crucial.
  • Name one thing/place someone coming to Charleston from out of town must see or do. I would spend a day downtown, walking along the Battery, exploring all the beautiful historic homes, and eating at some amazing restaurants... like the Ordinary, Husk, or Two Boroughs Larder. Ok, maybe that is more than one.

Friendor Friday | Dana Cubbage Photography | Charleston Wedding Photographers | Charleston Wedding Design | Scarlet Plan & Design Wedding Tour

I am so excited to talk about my good friend Dana Cubbage of Dana Cubbage Weddings on the blog today!  She was one of my first friends here in Charleston and is one of my go-to photographers when I have clients looking for a photographer with her clean, elegant, timeless style.  Dana is quick to laugh and has to be one of the easiest people I know to get along with.  Brides and grooms just adore her and we are absolutely delighted to have her on The Scarlet Wedding Tour.

We've put some fun questions together for folks to get to know the sponsors of The Tour a little better.  Enjoy!

happy planning, loves!

Sara

  • how long have you been in the event business?  and/or business for yourself?  Photography was always a hobby of mine, but my background is in business + finance.  After 7 years in corporate America, I was laid off at the most perfect time and became a full-time wedding photographer!  It was the push I needed to make it happen!  I've been shooting weddings full-time since August 2012 :)
  • what inspires you?  Traveling, new locations, beautiful light, color, texture, architecture, nature, my clients… there is so much beauty in our every day life!
  • what will guests of the scarlet wedding tour be seeing from you?  I'll be photographing all of the lovely details that the Scarlet Plan & Design team creates!  Shooting details is one of my most favorite things!
  • what are some of your favorite venues to work at? I absolutely love plantations + nautical settings!  Luckily, Charleston has plenty of them.  In Charleston, I'd have to say my favorite venues are Lowndes Grove, the William Aiken House, + the Legare Waring House… but honestly, there isn't a "bad" venue in town!!  I just really love the versatility of those places :)
  • what do you love most about this industry?  The camaraderie among the vendors.  I've met SO many incredible people in this industry and I feel like we are so very lucky to be surrounded by such creative AND kind people!
  • what do you hope guests of the scarlet wedding tour will take away from this experience? I hope they are able to see the possibility of creating a unique wedding experience for themselves and their guests.  I hope they come away with new ideas + inspiration on what is possible!
  • name one thing/place someone coming to charleston from out of town must see or do. Taco Boy :)  You know it's my fave!  Other than eat, I'd say take a walk downtown South of Broad.  It's magical down there!

Mom-Couture Rent the Runway Style | Dressing the Mothers of the Bride and Groom | Charleston Wedding Design | Atlanta Wedding Design | New York Wedding Design

I adore helping the sweet moms of my clients dress for the wedding day!  I love when they want to compliment the wedding party with their attire but want to look their best at the same time.  I mean, your mom has to look amazing, right?

But sometimes its really hard to find a gown or dress suit that looks appropriate for a wedding without looking like a performer in a casino.  Avoid the dreaded bling, mamas!  If it's covered in sequins and sparkles, you're running the risk of looking like one of Beyonce's backup singers and that's not really the most appropriate for your child's wedding.  A little bit of sparkle can go a very long way, loves!

Also note that unless you're attending a brunch wedding, there is no need to wear something as boring as a day suit, ladies.  You're a person of honor at the wedding and as such you must look the part.

One of my favorite places to find amazing gowns is Rent The Runway.  There is no shortage of incredible couture gowns appropriate for every type of wedding!  Here are just a few of my favorites perfect for nighttime events!

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For only $135, this incredible Monique Lhuiller would be stunning at a formal but fun wedding!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

This low-backed, black and gold Theia is just beyond incredible!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Color blocking is huge right now and has taken runways and the red carpet by storm all over the planet.  Go bold with this black and white confection by Milly for only $150.

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Another Monique Lhuiller gown, this one in glittering gold, would be perfect for any wedding where gold is being featured.

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

This modest black lace Anna Scholz gown is just incredible!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Is the event at a fabulous art gallery or perhaps have a more casual, but still elegant, feel?  This black jumpsuit by Cushnie Et Ochs is the perfect fit!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

This playful high/low gown by Monique Lhuillier would be perfect for a daytime or evening event.

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Whimsical garden wedding?  Look no further than this Badgley Mischka for only $165!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

This one shouldered, floor-length Badgley Mischka with the flattering peplum waist would be just as at home in an ultra formal setting as a semi-formal one.  And for only $150, who could say no?

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Yes, I know, I'm obsessed with Badgley Mischka, but who isn't?  This royal blue and black peplum/ruffled gown is just killer!

Friendor Friday | Firefly Vodka | Scarlet Wedding Tour | Charleston Wedding Design & Planning | Scarlet Plan & Design

It's Friendor Friday again and we're over the moon to announce and feature the newest sponsor of the Scarlet Wedding Tour (read all about it on the blog if you missed it!), Firefly Vodka!  That's right, y'all.  We just got my favorite vodka distilled and bottled right here in the Lowcountry.  If you haven't had a chance to check them out in person, I strongly urge anyone over the age of 21 (sorry, Liza) to head over to Wadmalaw Island for a tasting!  With 6 flavors of vodka to choose from, several options for liquor, wine and new rhums (that's how they spell rum), the options for tasty concoctions are just endless!

Whether you want to serve your guests spiked Arnold Palmers, banana pudding shots, or peach cobbler cocktails (yep, that's a thing!), the folks over at Firefly can create the perfect concoction to wow everyone invited!  We simply cannot wait to see what they've created for guests of the Scarlet Wedding Tour!!!

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what a "sweet" idea for wedding favors!

what a "sweet" idea for wedding favors!

the perfect addition to any welcome basket!

the perfect addition to any welcome basket!