Addressing your wedding invitations is kind of a big deal. And although there are about a million super fun ways to address your envelopes for your wedding invites and more fonts and envelope choices than I can count, there are some rules of etiquette that simply cannot be broken when it comes to HOW the titles are worded.Read More
Oftentimes I hear brides and grooms telling me all the reasons they can't afford a wedding planner and I just want to BEG them to reconsider that stance for sooooooo many reasons. You can't afford NOT to have a competent wedding planner on the ground handling all the details you've worked so long and so hard to put together. Here are just a few reasons why you should think twice before skipping a planner. I'm likely going to repeat myself a few times here, but trust me, I speak the truth!
I'm not going to touch on Destination Weddings in this post because we've got one specifically dedicated to that in the works so just stay tuned!
1. Peace of mind!
This is the biggest and the most important reason you should have a wedding planner that is both competent (and I stress that word) and professional (another word that deserves much emphasis) handling all the details of your big day. A real true event planner will have a whole team with her (or him!) so that no detail goes unnoticed.
Oh, what's that? Your auntie used to work at a flower shop in college back in '87 and she's going to do all the planning AND the flowers? Oh, your mom's cousin's best friend's step-brother's nephew's girlfriend does planning on the side? First of all, no. Second, do you really want your loved ones or some random person "working" your wedding instead of enjoying it? Don't you want to spend that wonderful day WITH your friends and family versus ordering everyone around and making sure people have done their "jobs" as well as making sure the vendors are on point? Wouldn't it be brilliant to have someone there to make sure all that happens while you get to be the Bride and not the Planner?
Furthermore, that person is more than likely not a professional wedding planner. Without the experience of a seasoned planning professional, when the average person gets hit with a high-stress, highly unpredictable day things can go very wrong. I'm not trying to scare you, but if things get hairy, can your mom/sister/cousin/aunt/friend handle the stress? And do you even want to expose her to that? Don't put the people you love to work at your wedding. The margin for error, stress and drama is exceptionally high when you do that!
Event & Wedding Planner jobs have landed on the top 5 lists of most stressful jobs for the last 5+ years. Simply put, we're used to this shit!
2. You will get access to our connections!
We've spent years carefully curating a list of vendors* we trust and highly recommend. We've built relationships with people and we know how they operate, we know that they are true professionals and we can attest to their abilities to deliver on their promises. We know exactly who to match you up with to fit your design and budget. We know who to guide you toward and who to steer you away from.
And even aside from discounts, we can open doors to vendors that may only work with clients that have wedding planners. That's right, there are many venues and vendors that will only work with people that have a planner. Without one of us, you'd likely never even know about them!
*PLEASE know that our Preferred Vendor list is not built on kickbacks, charging vendors commissions or referral fees. We find kickbacks to be not only dishonest, but wholly unethical and would never suggest a vendor based on them paying us to do so.
3. We can help you SAVE money!
Yes, you heard me right. We can save you money by helping you spend it smarter and negotiating better terms with your vendors. And sometimes our Preferred Vendors will offer discounted rates or throw in a little something extra for Scarlet brides. I'm not saying we will definitely be able to get you discounts and freebies with every single vendor, but sometimes it will happen. We work very closely with our preferred list for many reasons and occasionally they'll toss in a little lagniappe (a little something extra) for our clients. Let me reiterate that, we cannot guarantee discounts from everyone, but sometimes they will be offered. Do not go into a relationship with a planner simply because you think she's going to get you bajillions of discounts and get you a free wedding because you will be sorely disappointed, but certain vendors are able to extend discounts and upgrades for the clients of a planner they love.
We can also help you spend your money smarter by showing you where you can source things for less, talking you OUT of wasting $250 on a custom aisle runner you will probably trip on, and introducing you to the wonderful world of new talent! Love a high-end designer's flowers but can't afford it? We can introduce you to new talent that is very similar to their design aesthetic for a fraction of the cost. Bringing me right back to point #2 again, we know people!
Did you know it takes roughly 250-300 hours to plan a wedding for 125 people? Do you really have that much time on your hands? We do!
5. We can handle the drama!
If we know beforehand that Aunt Carol and Uncle Victor don't get along we can make sure they don't have any run-ins during the wedding. We can help you with the seating chart and make sure to seat them far, far away from each other at the reception (and we even keep an eye for trouble!) instead of them accidentally ending up at the same table and someone getting stabbed. This has legit happened. Buy me a margarita and I might just tell you that story!
6. We are your new, super organized, wedding loving best friends!
In addition to all the normal stuff like putting your timeline together and creating floorplans, we are one of the only people you know who will never get sick of your wedding! We spend hours gathering all your important personal belongings, helping you make your seating chart, putting together and delivering your Welcome Bags, helping keep you calm when your future sister-in-law gets a mad classy, monstrous new skull & crossbones tattoo right across her throat 2 days before your super traditional cathedral wedding (airbrushing isn't that expensive and works really well!), performing amateur relationship counseling when the groom insists on wearing his ratty old beat up Chucks with his custom Vera Wang tux (just let it slide!), coming with you to fittings, helping you pick out just the right shoes and earrings and then helping you again when you change your mind, keeping you hydrated & fed the day of the wedding, and answering every call and text you send our way. We keep track of payments for your vendors, help the best man and the MOH write their speeches if they need us, hand out all the tips, and we keep your event running seamlessly, handling whatever gets thrown our way.
And, honestly, the only thing we want at the end of the night is for you to hug us and tell us that you love us before you head off into Happily Ever After. That's the stuff we live for. Make your planner feel like she's loved and we will move mountains for you. Always.
7. We have brilliant ideas!
What? It's true Sure, you've seen all kinds of cool stuff on Pinterest but so have 100 million other Pinners. Most wedding planners & event designers strive to create unique events customized to the exact taste & budget of each client. And that means we get to know you as a couple and then come up with truly unique ideas for just y'all. We don't just copy our other weddings or another designer's work.
Or maybe you want to do something completely wild? We have crazy out of the box ideas (and the right connections!) to take your event to the next level! Want to hear more? Schedule your complimentary consultation with a Scarlet Wedding Planner today!
I know some of y'all are still worried that you cant afford a planner, but here's one last piece of advice, the ages old saying: "You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar" is one that will never go out of style. There is not one client that's been genuinely being kind and honest about their needs that has walked away without us finding a way to help them.
One of my absolute favorite past clients was on a tight budget and totally overwhelmed with planning, but she reminded me so much of my little sister, and on top of it she was absolutely delightful and gave me all the warm fuzzies when we talked for the first time that I knew I had to work with her and she's become one of my dearest friends (love you, Em!). So don't let your idea of what you can and can't afford stand in your way of at least talking to a wedding planner!
Happy planning, my loves!
enjoy a few photos of the SPD crew in action!
Ohhhhhh the the Historic Rice Mill…so gorgeous! I was thrilled when I was given this venue for my first Scarlet Wedding Tour. It is a blank slate while still feeling super southern – and that is MY THING. The venue itself has exposed brick (my fav!), old wood flooring, and tiled ceilings…not to mention the huge windows that overlook the bay filled with dreamy sunsets and gorgeous boats!
When I was thinking about the venue and what I wanted to do with it, the team was talking about going and getting oysters. OYSTERS popped in my mind and became my inspiration. The colors of deep blues, pearly whites, and soft grays would really soften the space and create such a romantic feel.
I wanted to use oysters but knew that going this route can sometimes become tricky in being able to keep the “over all feel” elegant and romantic without it becoming too theme-y. My very awesome husband agreed to create a stunning oyster garland that I draped down the estate table. The raw roughness of the shells paired with soft grays, deep navy, and feminine details really make the design feel elegant and coastal at the same time!
The stunning luxury linens (those coral ones are my all time favorite), milky glass spun plates, feminine glassware, ghost chairs, effortless florals, and watercolor paper suite all while overlooking the Ashley River really made the entire design come together in such a gorgeous seamless way!
I know what you are all thinking…and yes, those models are really in love! Miss Charleston, Kristen and her hunky boyfriend, Taylor really were amazing to work with and they are even more gorgeous in person! Seriously, they are going to have the prettiest babies someday!
Photography: MacKenzie Clark with The Click Chick Photography | Venue: Historical Rice Mill | Floral Design: Rebekah Moody Forage & Fleur | Linens: La Tavola Fine Linens | Paper Suite: Melanie Jankun with Jankun Creative | Catering: Good Food Catering | Cake: Chef Desmond Pringle with Gardenia's Custom Cakes | Rentals: Event Haus | Rentals: Polished | Transportation: LowCountry Valet | Music: Charleston Virtuosi
I adore helping the sweet moms of my clients dress for the wedding day! I love when they want to compliment the wedding party with their attire but want to look their best at the same time. I mean, your mom has to look amazing, right?
But sometimes its really hard to find a gown or dress suit that looks appropriate for a wedding without looking like a performer in a casino. Avoid the dreaded bling, mamas! If it's covered in sequins and sparkles, you're running the risk of looking like one of Beyonce's backup singers and that's not really the most appropriate for your child's wedding. A little bit of sparkle can go a very long way, loves!
Also note that unless you're attending a brunch wedding, there is no need to wear something as boring as a day suit, ladies. You're a person of honor at the wedding and as such you must look the part.
One of my favorite places to find amazing gowns is Rent The Runway. There is no shortage of incredible couture gowns appropriate for every type of wedding! Here are just a few of my favorites perfect for nighttime events!
For only $135, this incredible Monique Lhuiller would be stunning at a formal but fun wedding!
This low-backed, black and gold Theia is just beyond incredible!
Color blocking is huge right now and has taken runways and the red carpet by storm all over the planet. Go bold with this black and white confection by Milly for only $150.
Another Monique Lhuiller gown, this one in glittering gold, would be perfect for any wedding where gold is being featured.
This modest black lace Anna Scholz gown is just incredible!
Is the event at a fabulous art gallery or perhaps have a more casual, but still elegant, feel? This black jumpsuit by Cushnie Et Ochs is the perfect fit!
This playful high/low gown by Monique Lhuillier would be perfect for a daytime or evening event.
Whimsical garden wedding? Look no further than this Badgley Mischka for only $165!
This one shouldered, floor-length Badgley Mischka with the flattering peplum waist would be just as at home in an ultra formal setting as a semi-formal one. And for only $150, who could say no?
Yes, I know, I'm obsessed with Badgley Mischka, but who isn't? This royal blue and black peplum/ruffled gown is just killer!
With this amazing summer drawing to a close and dates still open on our calendar for Fall and Winter 2014, we're offering Takeover Coordination (similar to the Day Of Coordination packages most people are familiar with) for only $1400 for couples getting married in Charleston, SC and Atlanta, GA! What a deal, right?! Only one catch, you must book or inquire about our services by September 30th to secure your date at this rate.
Happy planning, my loves!