Addressing your wedding invitations is kind of a big deal. And although there are about a million super fun ways to address your envelopes for your wedding invites and more fonts and envelope choices than I can count, there are some rules of etiquette that simply cannot be broken when it comes to HOW the titles are worded.Read More
Update! John & Paul's wedding has been published in the Spring/Summer 2016 Issue of The Knot Magazine! Snag your copy today!
SMF, y'all, this post is gonna be long and mushy. Honestly I'm getting all kinds of choked up as I begin to write this blog about one of the most amazing couples I've ever been blessed enough to work with. John & Paul quickly went from incredible clients to good friends to people I now consider family. I'd say I miss them, but lucky for me they've become a part of my life and I'll never have to actually say goodbye to them. Geez, am I mushy enough or what?!
Now to the nitty gritty, but where do I even begin with their epic 3 part wedding extravaganza?! Let's get the vendor credits out of the way :)
::: planning, design, floral & styling : Sara Skinner, Scarlet Plan & Design | photography : Milanes Photography | venue : Library Hotel | menswear : The Modern Gent | shoes : Converse | cufflinks : Burberry | rings : Chris Ploof Designs, Mokume Gane | stationery : Paper Daisies | videography : Love Brain Films | cupcakes : Prohibition & Buttercup Cake Shop | restaurant : Tri Bec Ca | officiant : Reverend Lou Olivieri | glass ceremony : Unity In Glass | musicians : New York Virtuosi :::
When John & Paul first contacted me about planning their wedding, we hit it off within seconds and I immediately knew it was right up my alley and I just had to be involved. They were sweet, funky, madly in love and wanted a creative nontraditional bash to celebrate their marriage. And for them, it was all about the details! We took all the special details about their life and found ways to incorporate them into their big day.
We set the wheels in motion for the ceremony and a small reception to be held in New York (since at the time same-sex marriage was not yet legal in all 50 states) and planned for their reception to take place in their hometown of Atlanta a month later. And stay tuned for Part 2 of their Epic Wedding Adventure coming soon!
So off to New York we went! After countless Uber rides, 11 venue tours, 17 cases of the giggles (SMF!), 3 nights in a super sketchy Air BNB, treks through 2 Boroughs, a super awkward "tasting", inside jokes nobody but us will ever understand, dinner at a winery where no wine is actually made and one of the MOST fun planning trips I've ever taken, J&P fell in love with the Library Hotel, an impeccable gem of a boutique hotel. With sweeping views of Manhattan and the NY Public Library from the rooftop garden and the most incredible staff I've ever worked with (especially Sarah & Joel!), I couldn't possibly have better things to say about them!
Then we met with Reverend Lou Olivieri and he has easily become my favorite officiant of all time. Kind, genuine and just incredibly warm and welcoming, we immediately knew that he was the man for the job! I think it's safe to say we all fell a little bit in love with Rev. Lou! And his ceremony?! Just forget it. I straight up Kim K Ugly Cried the entire time. It was beautiful.
The grooms got ready together the morning of the wedding, just the two of them. Seeing as how it was their 7th anniversary, my team and I surprised them with an enormous bouquet of roses in their room while they were out taking their portraits with Cathi.
And then off they went to Washington Square Park & Central Park for portraits! Never have I seen 2 people more excited or full of joy than John & Paul the morning of their wedding day!
After J&P greeted most of their guests, we got the ceremony started! Their families walked down the aisle first, then their ADORABLE little flower girl, before John & Paul walked together, side by side just like every other aspect of their lives. Partners. Equals. Soul mates.
We did a gorgeous Glass Unity Ceremony where John & Paul poured different colored glass together and then we sent it off to Unity In Glass where they turned it into a gorgeous sculpture. And with the extra glass that was leftover from the sculpture my wonderful grooms had 2 gorgeous Christmas ornaments made for their mothers! Pics of those on my Part 2 blog post!
Following the rooftop ceremony John & Paul enjoyed a fabulous brunch mini-reception with all of their nearest & dearest! And then the entire gang walked a block over to the New York Public Library for some fun group shots!
Cheers to you both, my loves. May your lives always be filled with joy, love and laughter...and loads of SMF ;)
love always and always and always, Sara
I have a feeling this blog is going to ruffle a few feathers but I'm ok with that. This has been on my mind for quite some time and I feel like I need to just go ahead and get it out in the open. I'll likely lose a few friends and a few likes on our Facebook page, but, again, I'm ok with that.
I've been working with this one wedding vendor for years and years and absolutely adored working with them. I recently inquired about a date for one of my couples and they were totally available...until they found out I had a same-sex couple. Then all of a sudden the convo got super awkward and they had to "check their schedule" and would have to get back to me. Ultimately they passed on the wedding without any real explanation.
Now, I'm not here to point any elbows or start any drama, but I do feel like I need to get something out there.
We don't do "gay" weddings. There, I said it. Now hold up a second, before you go and get all bajiggity about it, you should also know that we don't do "straight" weddings, "white" weddings, "black" weddings, "Chinese" weddings, "Jewish" weddings or any other wedding you're tempted to label.
You know what we do?
We do weddings. Period.
We do big weddings. We do small weddings. We do medium sized weddings. We do weddings with two grooms. We do weddings with a bride & a groom and weddings with two brides, too. We do pop up weddings and elopements. We do incredible, authentic, unique, breathtaking, heartfelt, swoon-worthy weddings. We do weddings so filled with love and heartfelt joy that our entire team straight up Ugly Cries as the couple exchanges their handwritten vows. We do super unique, weird, quirky weddings. We do weddings steeped in tradition. We do Muslim nikkahs. We do fusion weddings combining time honored traditions with new traditions that our couple has created. We do weddings where the clients want to hang cakes from the ceiling with circus performers swinging around it. We do weddings with food trucks and ultra luxe weddings with seven course meals presented by white gloved servers in tuxedos. We do weddings where instead of exchanging rings, they both get tattoos. We do weddings where the bride is escorted down the aisle by her children and they have a "family ceremony" where they all pledge to love one another and to go forth as more than just a husband and a wife, they go forth as a family. We do weddings where it's just the couple, their officiant, me and a killer photographer on a cliff overlooking the sea. We do weddings where the couple has their best friend in the entire world get ordained so he can legally marry them using a ceremony script the three of them wrote together. (That wedding hit us right in the feels.)
I guess my point is, yes, of course we do same-sex weddings (and straight ones and black ones and white ones and all the other ones too)! And for us it's really about everything but the orientation of our couples, cuz let's be honest, that's none of our damn business anyway. #amiright?!
We don't care how you love, the only thing we care about is that you love.
We love love! We love it in all its many forms. We love helping our couples celebrate their love for one another more than anything and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank the good Lord for allowing me to do what I love.
And speaking of Him, I believe with all my heart that the greatest commandment we were ever given was to love one another (Matthew 22:36-40) and that's exactly what I intend to do. I'm confident that when I'm called to account for my life in front of my Creator, all He's really going to care about is that I did my best to love folks without judgement and helped them celebrate their love for one another.
Now how about we all enjoy some photos of a few weddings that just make us happy, happy, happy?! You can't tell me that seeing people this happy makes you do anything but smile!
I adore helping the sweet moms of my clients dress for the wedding day! I love when they want to compliment the wedding party with their attire but want to look their best at the same time. I mean, your mom has to look amazing, right?
But sometimes its really hard to find a gown or dress suit that looks appropriate for a wedding without looking like a performer in a casino. Avoid the dreaded bling, mamas! If it's covered in sequins and sparkles, you're running the risk of looking like one of Beyonce's backup singers and that's not really the most appropriate for your child's wedding. A little bit of sparkle can go a very long way, loves!
Also note that unless you're attending a brunch wedding, there is no need to wear something as boring as a day suit, ladies. You're a person of honor at the wedding and as such you must look the part.
One of my favorite places to find amazing gowns is Rent The Runway. There is no shortage of incredible couture gowns appropriate for every type of wedding! Here are just a few of my favorites perfect for nighttime events!
For only $135, this incredible Monique Lhuiller would be stunning at a formal but fun wedding!
This low-backed, black and gold Theia is just beyond incredible!
Color blocking is huge right now and has taken runways and the red carpet by storm all over the planet. Go bold with this black and white confection by Milly for only $150.
Another Monique Lhuiller gown, this one in glittering gold, would be perfect for any wedding where gold is being featured.
This modest black lace Anna Scholz gown is just incredible!
Is the event at a fabulous art gallery or perhaps have a more casual, but still elegant, feel? This black jumpsuit by Cushnie Et Ochs is the perfect fit!
This playful high/low gown by Monique Lhuillier would be perfect for a daytime or evening event.
Whimsical garden wedding? Look no further than this Badgley Mischka for only $165!
This one shouldered, floor-length Badgley Mischka with the flattering peplum waist would be just as at home in an ultra formal setting as a semi-formal one. And for only $150, who could say no?
Yes, I know, I'm obsessed with Badgley Mischka, but who isn't? This royal blue and black peplum/ruffled gown is just killer!
The only thing hotter than a well dressed man is two well dressed men! Here we've culled some of our favorite looks for tying the knot in style. Some of them are matching, some of them are complete opposites and some are just too dope (do the cool kids still say that?) not to include!
The one piece of advice I give all my couples is to be true to themselves and to make sure your attire is well tailored. If you're not comfortable wearing a tuxedo, then don't do it. However, if you're the sort of couple the adores being matchy-matchy then absolutely match one another for your wedding. This is your day and you should feel your absolute best while letting your personalities shine through!
Why not have one of you wear a bowtie and the other can wear a necktie in coordinating colors like the couple below? I honestly just can't handle how much I love the light gray suits sans jacket and just the vests!
Matching tuxes will never be wrong in my book either! Good gracious, men in well fitted tuxes just make your heart go pitter-patter...
And matching brown designer suits with matching socks? That's a done deal!
I just love these handsome fellas in blue and navy blue suits that really compliment each other perfectly. You really can't go wrong!
There is nothing I don't love about everything in the photo below! Super dark jeans with white tux jackets and the Happily Ever After jump? Adore!
So we haven't gone completely mad when we say you should "lose" the wedding cake. We really mean that you shouldn't feel like you HAVE to go the traditional route when it comes to choosing your sweets for your guests. There are no rules when it comes to having (or not having) the big old wedding cake for 250 people. If you don't like cake, you don't have to serve cake. Or at least not an entire cake for everyone.
One of my favorite new trends I've been seeing pop up in several of my weddings is the smaller sized cake simply for cutting purposes and a huge dessert bar filled with all their favorite goodies. I mean, what do you do if neither of you really enjoy cake? I suggest tossing it out the window (not literally!) and serving your dearly beloved something you both actually enjoy.
What if your first date was at a fabulous little coffee shop and you shared an incredible little donut and would love to share that special moment with everyone? Get your "cake" made out of donuts!
And who says pie is just for picnics? We beg to differ! Go for something outside the box and serve up adorable little miniature pies. Or feel free to go even crazier with pies on a stick!
Or do what Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds did when they got hitched in Charleston at Boone Hall Plantation just last year, serve a little bit of everything! They had the cake flown in from Virginia and had tons of amazing local bakeries put an incredible dessert station together for them with everything from strawberry shortcakes to s'mores bars to tiny little tartlets.
The possibilities are really quite limitless when you realize that your wedding is all about you and your new spouse. There is nothing holding you back from serving what you want how you want it! So be brave and throw that wedding cake out the window!