We don't do "gay" weddings | Charleston, Atlanta & destination nontraditional wedding planner & designer | LGBT wedding planner

I have a feeling this blog is going to ruffle a few feathers but I'm ok with that. This has been on my mind for quite some time and I feel like I need to just go ahead and get it out in the open. I'll likely lose a few friends and a few likes on our Facebook page, but, again, I'm ok with that.  

I've been working with this one wedding vendor for years and years and absolutely adored working with them. I recently inquired about a date for one of my couples and they were totally available...until they found out I had a same-sex couple. Then all of a sudden the convo got super awkward and they had to "check their schedule" and would have to get back to me. Ultimately they passed on the wedding without any real explanation.

Now, I'm not here to point any elbows or start any drama, but I do feel like I need to get something out there.

We don't do "gay" weddings. There, I said it. Now hold up a second, before you go and get all bajiggity about it, you should also know that we don't do "straight" weddings, "white" weddings, "black" weddings, "Chinese" weddings, "Jewish" weddings or any other wedding you're tempted to label.

You know what we do?  

We do weddings.  Period.  

We do big weddings. We do small weddings. We do medium sized weddings. We do weddings with two grooms. We do weddings with a bride & a groom and weddings with two brides, too. We do pop up weddings and elopements. We do incredible, authentic, unique, breathtaking, heartfelt, swoon-worthy weddings. We do weddings so filled with love and heartfelt joy that our entire team straight up Ugly Cries as the couple exchanges their handwritten vows.  We do super unique, weird, quirky weddings.  We do weddings steeped in tradition.  We do Muslim nikkahs.  We do fusion weddings combining time honored traditions with new traditions that our couple has created.  We do weddings where the clients want to hang cakes from the ceiling with circus performers swinging around it.  We do weddings with food trucks and ultra luxe weddings with seven course meals presented by white gloved servers in tuxedos.  We do weddings where instead of exchanging rings, they both get tattoos.  We do weddings where the bride is escorted down the aisle by her children and they have a "family ceremony" where they all pledge to love one another and to go forth as more than just a husband and a wife, they go forth as a family.  We do weddings where it's just the couple, their officiant, me and a killer photographer on a cliff overlooking the sea.  We do weddings where the couple has their best friend in the entire world get ordained so he can legally marry them using a ceremony script the three of them wrote together.  (That wedding hit us right in the feels.)

I guess my point is, yes, of course we do same-sex weddings (and straight ones and black ones and white ones and all the other ones too)! And for us it's really about everything but the orientation of our couples, cuz let's be honest, that's none of our damn business anyway. #amiright?! 

We don't care how you love, the only thing we care about is that you love.

We love loveWe love it in all its many forms. We love helping our couples celebrate their love for one another more than anything and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank the good Lord for allowing me to do what I love.

And speaking of Him, I believe with all my heart that the greatest commandment we were ever given was to love one another (Matthew 22:36-40) and that's exactly what I intend to do.  I'm confident that when I'm called to account for my life in front of my Creator, all He's really going to care about is that I did my best to love folks without judgement and helped them celebrate their love for one another.

Now how about we all enjoy some photos of a few weddings that just make us happy, happy, happy?! You can't tell me that seeing people this happy makes you do anything but smile!

mike allebach, the creative genius behind the lens for this photo, is available for travel to all 50 states and abroad

mike allebach, the creative genius behind the lens for this photo, is available for travel to all 50 states and abroad

the couple's best friend, Alan, officiated the nuptials in this photo

the couple's best friend, Alan, officiated the nuptials in this photo

mazel tov!

mazel tov!

a ceremony filled with love and the promise to go forth as a family was just perfect for this couple

a ceremony filled with love and the promise to go forth as a family was just perfect for this couple

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who says you can't wear a tuxedo with flip flops?

who says you can't wear a tuxedo with flip flops?

a traditional church wedding with 11 bridesmaids and 9 groomsmen at peachtree road united methodist church in atlanta

a traditional church wedding with 11 bridesmaids and 9 groomsmen at peachtree road united methodist church in atlanta

jumping for joy!

jumping for joy!

matching boat shoes?  i looooove!!

matching boat shoes?  i looooove!!

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Friendor Friday | Flute Bar Service & Party Rentals | Scarlet Wedding Tour Sponsors | Charleston, Atlanta, New York Nontraditional Wedding Planners & Designers

Today I am so excited to talk about Petra Petrillo and Flute Bar Service & Party Rentals.  Petra was kind enough to host an Open House Holiday Party for all us event pros at LOKAL on Johns Island a few days ago and I am constantly blown away by her creativity and grace.  As always, the cocktails were incredible, the food was outstanding and the service was perfect.  Just a few of the many reasons that we are overjoyed to have Flute and her sister company Crave Catering on the Scarlet Wedding Tour.

  • how long have you been in the event business? and/or business for yourself?  Cooking and mixology were always in my life! My husband - Executive Chef Mike Petrillo and I opened our first restaurant in Pittsburgh, PA in 2002. We have started with catering as well as private parties back then. In 2007 we moved from Pennsylvania to Charleston and we launched Crave Charleston Catering. After 7 successful years in catering business I have started Flûte Charleston - bar service. I have many years of bartering experience and it just made sense to us to open a bartering service.
  • what inspires you?  Farmer’s markets and interesting grocery stores! I am exited about seasonal fruit for juices - I love mixing cocktails with fresh squeezed juice! Also, I have a passion for traveling and like to collect different ideas from various countries. 
  • what will guests of the scarlet wedding tour be seeing from you? Flûte will prepare 3 specialty cocktails created just for this event and will be serving them at Boone Hall Plantation.
  • what are some of your favorite venues to work at? My favorite definitely are plantations - they are just stunning! My favorites are: Boone Hall Plantation, The Island House on John’s Island and Brookland Pointe Plantation on Edisto Island.
  • what do you love most about this industry? I really like working with people and be part of their special day. I like to see how the events come together.
  • what do you hope guests of the Scarlet Wedding Tour will take away from this experience?  I hope they will be inspired to have a wedding of their dreams. With all the wonderful vendors participating in the Scarlet Wedding Tour there are going to see that the options and ideas have no limits!
  • name one thing/place someone coming to Charleston from out of town must see or do.  Carriage ride and a tour of one of the mansions in downtown is a must!
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Mom-Couture Rent the Runway Style | Dressing the Mothers of the Bride and Groom | Charleston Wedding Design | Atlanta Wedding Design | New York Wedding Design

I adore helping the sweet moms of my clients dress for the wedding day!  I love when they want to compliment the wedding party with their attire but want to look their best at the same time.  I mean, your mom has to look amazing, right?

But sometimes its really hard to find a gown or dress suit that looks appropriate for a wedding without looking like a performer in a casino.  Avoid the dreaded bling, mamas!  If it's covered in sequins and sparkles, you're running the risk of looking like one of Beyonce's backup singers and that's not really the most appropriate for your child's wedding.  A little bit of sparkle can go a very long way, loves!

Also note that unless you're attending a brunch wedding, there is no need to wear something as boring as a day suit, ladies.  You're a person of honor at the wedding and as such you must look the part.

One of my favorite places to find amazing gowns is Rent The Runway.  There is no shortage of incredible couture gowns appropriate for every type of wedding!  Here are just a few of my favorites perfect for nighttime events!

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For only $135, this incredible Monique Lhuiller would be stunning at a formal but fun wedding!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

This low-backed, black and gold Theia is just beyond incredible!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Color blocking is huge right now and has taken runways and the red carpet by storm all over the planet.  Go bold with this black and white confection by Milly for only $150.

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Another Monique Lhuiller gown, this one in glittering gold, would be perfect for any wedding where gold is being featured.

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

This modest black lace Anna Scholz gown is just incredible!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Is the event at a fabulous art gallery or perhaps have a more casual, but still elegant, feel?  This black jumpsuit by Cushnie Et Ochs is the perfect fit!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

This playful high/low gown by Monique Lhuillier would be perfect for a daytime or evening event.

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Whimsical garden wedding?  Look no further than this Badgley Mischka for only $165!

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

This one shouldered, floor-length Badgley Mischka with the flattering peplum waist would be just as at home in an ultra formal setting as a semi-formal one.  And for only $150, who could say no?

dressing the mothers of the bride and groom, scarlet plan & design

Yes, I know, I'm obsessed with Badgley Mischka, but who isn't?  This royal blue and black peplum/ruffled gown is just killer!

Friendor Friday | Firefly Vodka | Scarlet Wedding Tour | Charleston Wedding Design & Planning | Scarlet Plan & Design

It's Friendor Friday again and we're over the moon to announce and feature the newest sponsor of the Scarlet Wedding Tour (read all about it on the blog if you missed it!), Firefly Vodka!  That's right, y'all.  We just got my favorite vodka distilled and bottled right here in the Lowcountry.  If you haven't had a chance to check them out in person, I strongly urge anyone over the age of 21 (sorry, Liza) to head over to Wadmalaw Island for a tasting!  With 6 flavors of vodka to choose from, several options for liquor, wine and new rhums (that's how they spell rum), the options for tasty concoctions are just endless!

Whether you want to serve your guests spiked Arnold Palmers, banana pudding shots, or peach cobbler cocktails (yep, that's a thing!), the folks over at Firefly can create the perfect concoction to wow everyone invited!  We simply cannot wait to see what they've created for guests of the Scarlet Wedding Tour!!!

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what a "sweet" idea for wedding favors!

what a "sweet" idea for wedding favors!

the perfect addition to any welcome basket!

the perfect addition to any welcome basket!